Don't be disturbed by actions of others ...

Don't be disturbed by the actions of others. Even if those you interact with accuse you of being angry even when you are calm. Karma has its time scale. Mind was angry once. Can it overnight be perceived as pure? Even if it has changed. Recall the stories of AngulimAla and AruNagirinadar.
Know that others are an illusion on account of their transience.

Harishchandra, knew his wife and son were mAyA, but held to dharma under all circumstances. Recall also the deception of SrI RAma by MeghnAd bringing forth the mAYA sItA.

JnAni knows all thoughts perceived as existing in external world actually exist only in the mind. So jnAni has to liberate the entire world as he attains liberation. AvatAr is the most powerful since it encompasses the entire universe in its mind. 

All the unpleasant thoughts seen in others minds have to be understood as arising from the three guNas and accepted in silence as guNas playing with the guNas.