Sex and brahmacarya

Sex and brahmacarya. In the ideal marriage of Sage VasiShTha and arundhatI, it was possible for a mind established in Brahman to also live as a householder with a wife as chaste as arundhatI.

This is not possible in Kali Yuga on bhUloka.

In the beginning the seeker rejects sex. Instructions of Guru decry the body to induce rejection and to turn the seeker on to the right path, to become an Urdhvaretu: the upward traveling energy of consciousness up the suShUmna.

But a jnAni does not reject sex or love, nor does he seek it. He may be unmoved by it or he may seem to engage in it, but his jnAna is unchanged. He can handle personal love and will love from the heart and soul but he cannot limit his love to only one person or object. It must extend equally to all.

Even physical love is possible, but it definitely debilitates prANa and sAdhanA. So for ordinary mortals the dhArmic exercise of love and sex are only for procreation.

In some cases jnAnis and Yogis like vyAsa engaged in sex for the greater good. Such vision or justification is not common in Kali Yuga on bhUloka, but rather than use this to judge the actions of others, these observations should be applied only to oneself. The vision of a vishrava who knew his children would grow up to be rAkShasas like rAvaNa, or the vision of a VasiShTha is not possible on bhUloka in Kali Yuga. Since one cannot live up to that in Kali Yuga it is better to restrain passion by not rejecting the love of a personal nature but recognizing that it is merely a puddle compared to the Ocean of Bliss.

Such a conviction can only arise if one has tasted a drop of the Ocean of Bliss which is qualitatively different from quaffing from a multitude of puddles. Repeated experience of personal love from different puddles is exhausting  both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It depletes tejas. On the other hand, a brahmacAri glows with tejas. That makes him attractive to the true seeker but he knows better than to bring both down to the ignorance of personal love. The particularization of personal love is tAmasic.

So out of wisdom one chooses to be a brahmacAri or brahmacAriNi, not out of confusion between several available partners, or the lack of ability to be with a partner.

The true brahmacAri does not need restraint out of denial but looks beyond to the greater prize of brahmaniSTha. Being established permanently in the Blissful state.